Welcome to the site

This website is for women, and men, grieving after abortion to share their stories and find support, for women who are pregnant and uncertain of what to do, and for people who want to know more about abortion and what lies behind it.

Please take the time to register in Your Space – a simple process in which you give your email address and will then receive a password (that you can subsequently change) to use to log in on future visits.   If you wish to add a comment on the Comments Board, you can do so without registering.  We welcome and value your views and opinions.

Suffering after abortion

If you are suffering after an abortion, we are sorry this has happened to you. This is a place for people who are grieving a lost baby and who wish to honour that loss. You may want to go straight to our support section and, if you wish, share your story and make a dedication.

Considering abortion

If you are pregnant and considering abortion, we hope you will inform yourself as much as possible.   We would like to inspire you with the sense that you are partaking in something miraculous, the gift of life, and that despite the problems you are facing, you can give birth to your child. If you are in any doubt at all about abortion, then please listen to that doubt. Above all, do not have an abortion because someone is pressuring you to do so. Please reflect carefully because an abortion, once it is carried out, can never be undone.  To understand more about the potential aftermath of abortion, please go to our considering abortion section.

Want to know more

If you have come here to learn more about abortion, what lies behind it and what it can lead to, we point out that we have not attempted to write research articles. What we say emerges from our own hearts and views. We are two ordinary women who have lived with our own abortions. What we say reflects our truth and, we believe, that of many other women.

If you don’t agree with us

We do not expect everyone to agree with our standpoint, forged in the harsh fire of experience. They do not and they will not. We are saying it as we see it and we are coming down on one side of the fence because we believe that that is where true compassion and wisdom lie. If you come with opposing or hostile views, there are plenty of forums where they can be expressed. They are not appropriate here. This is a moderated site and abusive or attacking comments will not be posted. We wish to create a safe space in which people’s grief is allowed and validated and in which we affirm our sense of what is truly life-giving for women, men, and their children.

This is our choice.

Go, said the bird, for the leaves were full of children,
Hidden excitedly, containing laughter.
Go, go, go, said the bird: human kind
Cannot bear very much reality.
T.S.Eliot