We are all judges of our fellows and all hope that when we fall someone will stoop down and raise us, even if only a little bit.
It is truey kind to ask about your friend’s abortion. Really people do not want to keep the secret but they fear judgment and so keep “it” all locked inside. My own story which I can talk about is testament to that needing to keep “it” secret, and at the same time “it” being in the open just long enough to cause me alarm. The feelings of shame and knowing would rush into my mind; I would immediately push it down again. After “it” I wanted to have a baby. When after a few years I became pregnant again I denied having been pregnant before.
I remember the discomfort of knowing I was lying and not being able to tell the truth. I wonder if doctors are aware this happens.