Its been a long time – on 10th February it will be 42 years – and yet I still need to see my baby’s face. I feel differently about my mum’s face, because although she is dead and her face has faded, I did know her face, it is in my mind’s eye. For many years after her death, I saw her in others, the way she smiled, an angle of the eyes, the shape of her chin, until at last my grief was spent, and I LAID HER TO REST.
So how do I capture sight of my baby’s face? First I have to…ask others to recognise there was a baby.