Midwives
Posted by Catherine

In the old days, and occasionally still, women gave birth at home with the aid of a midwife.  Midwives give encouragement and support to the woman and her family, and help with the birthing process.  I believe that what a woman needs when she is pregnant, to enable her to carry the pregnancy happily to term, are metaphorical midwives.  These are people surrounding the woman who express happiness in what has happened and who help overcome the woman’s fears – what about her relationship, her job, her plans if she has a child now?  They might also help practically and financially.  In any event, their function is to see the developing baby and to welcome it into the world, along with the new mother.

What actually happened with me, as with so many others, is that I did not have a single midwife.  Not one person, at any stage, who welcomed my baby and helped me see how I could give birth.  Because abortion is legal and readily available, this is what I was urged to.  Being young, and full of fears as well as dreams and hopes, and with a baggage of unresolved pain in regard to my own childhood, this was paramount for me.  If my baby had been welcomed and a path provided to welcoming him into the world, I would have had what was needed for us both to thrive.  In the absence of these midwives, tragedy could run its course.

I believe this is probably the single most important factor for the majority of women.  This is the profound injustice wrought by the legalisation of abortion.  Whereas some – the minority? – of women freely want and choose abortion, and want it available to them as their “right”, all the others simply do not know what abortion is or means and are caught in some inexorable trap from which they do not know how to free themselves.  Someone could stop it, someone could be a midwife – even if it is only just the law itself.

2 Comments

  1. I remember meeting such a woman who had indeed been enabled to give birth to her baby, by such a “midwife”. She told me she had gone up to Scotland and resided with a woman who supported her and helped her up to the time of birth. When the birth was over the mother and child returned home, where she was accepted and the baby was adored.

    Posted by Tracy on February 10, 2013 at 6:49 pm // Reply to comment
  2. In this context, I also received help from ‘midwives” when I moved interstate, pregnant, unmarried, aged 25 & met with volunteers & their contacts who gave support, accommodation, clothing, info. re Doctors,transport etc. My eventual accomm.was with a triple certificated nurse who became my son’s Godmother. Eventually I returned the favours by joining an after-hours ‘phone counselling service for those who viewed their pregnancy as a crisis, male and female.Some men were totally distraught that their offspring would be killed. This service is now under the patronage of an Archbishop with all aspects mentioned above being fully co-ordinated.

    Posted by Mary Imelda on February 11, 2013 at 8:15 am // Reply to comment


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